1) What made you fall in love with Nat?
His laugh, it really sounds so genuine and warm - just like he is!
2) What are your favourite things to do together?
We just make the most of any time together in our busy lives, we turn everything into a date. Shopping dates, park run dates, errand dates, dog walk dates... When we get the time we love hosting parties, camping, beach trips and bush walks.
3) Tell us a bit about your wedding planning process. Did you do most of the planning, did you divide some tasks - do you have any tips on how to keep track of all the moving puzzle pieces? How long before the wedding did you start planning?
I loved planning so I took over and that was fine by him! I set tasks for him like calling vendors, organising his groomsmen, ring etc.. and always asked for his feedback along the way to make sure it was the wedding we both pictured.
Spreadsheets were a lifesaver, we used google sheets so that our planning was always saved and accessible by both of us at any-time. We had one file full of guest-lists, addresses, quotes, to-do lists and calendars.
We were planning for about 18 months so it was so useful to have one master document with everything there - that could do all the math for us too!
4) Which part of your wedding did you look forward to the most during the lead up? And then, in retrospect, which moment was actually your favourite?
I thought I was looking forward to the end of formalities dancing but I was exhausted! We were always looking forward to the photo sessions and that did not disappoint, but I also didn't realise how much we would love the speeches!
5) If you hadn’t had your engagement photography session, do you think the wedding day photo session would have been the same as it was?
No way! The engagement session gave us so much trust and rapport with Lovelenscapes which helped us so much with the last months of our wedding planning. We then knew what to expect from them over the whole day and how much fun the photos could be.
6) You decided to have a first look before the ceremony. I would say half of our upcoming wedding couples are considering to have a first look, but they are unsure whether to do it or not because of tradition and because it might dim the surprise for the moment of seeing each other when the bride walks down the aisle. What is your advice for brides on the fence?
You will not regret it. There was still so much excitement and anticipation for our first look. It felt like such raw emotion when it was just the two of us. We had such a special moment and we really treasure having such an intimate emotions captured so beautifully. We still had a traditional aisle moment as I walked down with Dad and it was still very emotional for us and the guests.
7) Weather Gods: It was a very rainy wedding day for you and Nat, but neither of you gave a fork about it, which made all the difference for the vibe of the day. How did you manage your expectations when you realised that certain long-anticipated aspects like a horse carriage as your transport to the ceremony and sun-soaked sunset photos at a lookout up the mountains wouldn’t happen? Any tips for other brides to stay groovy during a rainy day or how to mentally and logistically prepare for it?
In the week leading up we had storms predicted and at first I was actually pretty devastated. My daydream of the dry, sunny, easy day and ceremony entrance with the local horse carriage had been shattered. So I had to change my expectations, change my daydream. I started imagining our day as rainy with our plan B ceremony. I started imagining how to make the most of the day and enjoy the rain, so I planned to put on my doc martens so I could run around and jump in puddles, to save my sparkly heels for the reception. I had to remind myself that we picked this one day, we had been planning for this day for so long, it was our day and we had to make the most of it.
I was most upset about missing our planned photo locations/opportunities. But the trust and rapport from our engagement session was priceless because I put trust in our photographers to improvise and capture beautiful memories no matter how the day unfolded - and they did not disappoint. We took their lead and couldn't be happier with the outcome, I now couldn't imagine us in sun-soaked photos as what we have instead is so beautiful!
So logistically, ensure you have a plan B and think of other details such as shoes, umbrellas and transport that would make it easier if it's raining. To mentally prepare for it don't just think of plan B as a worse case scenario because there is absolutely nothing wrong with rain on your wedding day.
8) Personal one - skip if you like. I love your honest account of your journey towards a healthier and more balanced life over on instagram. Through following you, I have learnt that you have an interest in techniques to relieve anxiety, which you mention that you experience, in parallel to a very successful, but stressful career and a rich personal life. Would you mind sharing some techniques that you feel worked well for you in managing/relieving your anxiety during the wedding planning process and also during the wedding day? - note: maybe also mention what parts of the planning were the hardest for you guys...
My anxiety did make some aspects of wedding planning hard. This led to me being much more open with friends and family about what caused my anxiety, how they could help me during planning and on the day by taking on the things that can stress me out like phone calls. Even just setting up the reception the day before led to a panic attack, but I'd made sure to have clear instructions written and printed so everyone was on the same page and I knew it would still be set-up to my vision so all was well in the end. So being organised and having everything in writing and our magical spreadsheet really helped.
I made sure to keep making time for myself and not forget about the importance of self care. I tried different meditation techniques such as a float tank/sensory deprivation tank. I had 2 floats in the 2 weeks before the wedding and this helped me so much, I was able to relax away from distractions and just think things through calmly. This is where I spent a lot of time thinking about our rain plans and came up with the idea of wearing my doc martens to the ceremony/photos! A float tank isn't for everyone of course, but I would recommend time off work - I had 2 weeks off before the wedding and felt my stress ease away as soon as I had the time off to focus on pulling all the little bits together.
9) DIY: there is a lot of online chatter about wedding DIY, but I want to mention two things that really stood out to me at your wedding, which were your beautifully designed and super informative wedding brochures and your homemade scented candles. What was your thought behind creating either of these and how did you create the brochures and candles?
I thought so much about what I wanted to plan and create to make the wedding more than just one day. I knew the day would go in a blink and wanted to really enjoy the planning and leave something for guests to remember.
I'm so sentimental and I love being able to take something away from events like weddings. I loved the idea of candles because we could make them together. Those scents will always take me back to making them in our first home and daydreaming about our wedding day. We had lots of open candles around the venue(for the scent) so hopefully when guests bring out their candles it won't just remind them of our wedding but really take them back to the day. We had two scents and colours so couples could take home two different candles (or guests could fight over their fave)
I loved designing the brochures (clipart purchased on Etsy) so we could make sure guests were on the same page so they could relax and enjoy the day, knowing when everything was happening. A brochure gave me so much room to include details that are often missed or quickly forgotten in the rush of the day, such as our song choices, or why we chose our wedding location as well as the names of our wedding party and photographers! A written timeline made a big difference in having everyone's attention for the speeches - and meant most people stuck around for the sparkler exit!
10) The typical Bride is a gal like you and me, in her 20ies or 30ies and slightly overwhelmed and on edge with all the costs, characters and to-do lists involved. Do you have a mantra for them that they can use to pull through?
I like to say - your wedding, your way. I kept in mind how we wanted the day to look, feel and flow and we only included what we wanted to without worrying about expectations or traditions. The day goes by so fast I wanted to enjoy planning as much as possible, so if I didn't enjoy planning it - I just didn't do it.
11) What are your tips for other couples on how to get great Wedding photos?
Trust your photographer! Talk to them and plan with them, schedule the time they need and include them in your day. Trust the process, embrace it and have fun with it.